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Christlife Posture: Trusting God's Wisdom

Topic: Long Term Effects of College Relationships

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Suggested Approach: Choose 1 thing from each of the three boxes

OR Choose 1 from Media or Reflection + 1 from Scripture 

Media Excursions         Watch/read/listen and be ready to discuss Q's

Still Images

  • Paintings: The Garden Wall or Simplon Pass: Reading (John Singer Sargent)  Do you think the two women in the picture are friends, acquaintances or relatives?  How does the artist indicate that they are or are not friends?

  • Photograph: Jesus Washes the Disciples Feet  (Grace Church Creative Arts) As you view this depiction, reflect on the kinds of expectations Jesus may have had for the way the disciples would relate to each other after he was gone.

Video Clip

  • Bench of Friendship (The Chrisbox) Do you agree with this video that friendship “needs assistance”? What things would help friendships form more truly on your college campus?  What would help you?

Song

  • More than You’ll Ever Know (Watermark) How well does this song describe any of your current friendships in college? How would you describe what you want to be as you extend friendship to others.

Podcast

  • In iTunes, look up “Timothy Keller Podcasts by Gospel in Life”.  Listen to podcast #30 on Prov 17:17 on Friendship.

Reflection Options  

Journal  (Reflect on one or more of these questions)

  • What is my vision/hope for what kind of friendships I want to have at the end of my college experience? (Mentor: What friendships did you leave college with? Are they still in your life? Or describe your longest friendships—how have they been significant in your life?)

  • What you have learned about what makes a good friendship from:

    • Your family

    • Your church

    • Your High School years

Quote Interaction (Interact by agreeing, disagreeing or otherwise engaging with the quote/quotes)

  • "Jesus said, 'Greater things of these you shall do...' Become a peace builder, a bridge builder, not a destroyer, and the way you do that is through friendships and relationships, and through authentic character." Ravi Zacharias

  • "It is not my wish to lounge about the college and fatten on a fellowship all my days. I am always trying to look upon a college life as a medium not an end."  Thomas Edward Brown

Reading & Reflection from the book, Shaping The Journey of Emerging Adults:

  • Read "Friendships" (pp. 146-147).  Note the qualities sought out in friendships for four subgroups on page 147.  Which one do you identify with the most?  What is an example from your own life?

  • Read "Teach specific skills for healthy relating" (pp. 158-60) Evaluate yourself in each of those skills. Where would you like to improve?

  • Read “Create a diagram of relationships” (p. 161). Make one to describe your own relationships. 

 Explore Scripture Meditate on one or more of the following passages. Always look them up in context.  Take some time to really explore the verse in relation to this topic.  Listen to any wisdom these verses might have for you in regard to your friendships.  Make a note of what you discover to share later.  See "Learn More About Ways to Study Scripture" below for help in getting the most out of the verse.

  • Prov. 13: 20 

  • Hebrews 10:24-25  

  • 2 Cor 6:14  NOTE: Make sure you research what this verse really means! Consult a commentary or study bible.

  • Galatians 5:13 

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