Shaping the Journey
of Emerging Adults
Conversation Starters for Intergenerational Relationships
Christlife Posture: Submitting to God's Love and Leading
Topic: Social Media Distracts My Heart
Suggested Approach: Choose 1 thing from each of the three boxes
OR Choose 1 from Media or Reflection + 1 from Scripture
Media Excursions (Watch/read/listen and be ready to discuss Q's)
Still Image/Photograph
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Art Installation: Dismaland (Bansky) What do you think is the message of this art object? Describe a time you used an electronic device to ignore someone or something.
Video Clip
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Thirst (Keith Rivers) Does it ever seem like Social Media promises more than it can deliver? What thirsts does it meet? When has it felt like the experience of the man in the short film?
Song
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Priceless (For King and Country) How do you use Social Media to either create your image or to distract yourself and others from what you perceive as your flaws? What might cause you to turn to social media instead of God when you are unsure of your identity?
Article
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Social Media Heart Check (Kim Cash Tate) Evaluate yourself in these four areas. Where are you doing well? Where can you grow?
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Your Spiritual Crisis has 214 Likes (S.D. Kelly) Do you think Social Media “factors heavily” into the development of your identity? How does Social Media detract or enhance the cultivation of your soul (soul work)? How do you respond to the idea that “turning off your screen” can facilitate the ability to move into adulthood more fully formed?
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Christians and Social Media: Your Spiritual Disciplines are on Display (Laura Thigpen) Do you find, as the author does, that at times you are allowing Social Media to be your “nutrient supply” for your convictions? Look over the disciplines the article suggests could take its place. What stands out to you from this section that you want to focus on more than you are currently focusing on.
Reflection Options
Journal (Reflect on one or more of these questions)
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Do you multitask while you are using Social Media? What is the effect of that on your life (good and bad)? Have you ever found yourself multitasking while spending time with God? What do you think about that?
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On a scale of 1 (easy) to 10 (super hard), how difficult is it for you to put aside your phone/tablet to be silent and undistracted before God? To listen to a friend? To engage with a family member or at a family event? To study or write a paper without distraction? What do your answers tell you about yourself or your struggle in this area?
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Philip Ryken said, “To identify your own idols, ask questions like these: What things take the place of God in my life? Where do I find my significance and my confidence? What things make me really angry? Anger usually erupts when an idol gets knocked off the shelf.” Analyze how you feel when you have lost access to the internet or cannot check your Social Media sites. How close are you to idolatry? What steps can you take to change?
Quote Interaction (Interact by agreeing, disagreeing or otherwise engaging with the quote/quotes)
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I know not what others experiences may be, but if I have found anything of God, or of his grace, I may thank a wood, a wildernesse, a desert, a solitary place for its accommodation. (St. Ambrose)
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Like an ignorant child who wants to go on making mud pies in a slum because he cannot imagine what is meant by a holiday at the sea. We are far too easily pleased. (C.S. Lewis)
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I fear that the cross, without ever being disowned, is constantly in danger of being dismissed from the central place it must enjoy, by relatively peripheral insights that take on far too much weight. Whenever the periphery is in danger of displacing the center, we are not far removed for idolatry. (D.A. Carson)
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Anytime we long for something apart from God, fear something more than God, or trust in something other than God to make us happy, fulfilled, or secure, we worship a false god. It is important to emphasize the fact that idols can arise from good desires as well as wicked desires. It is often not what we want that is the problem, but that we want it too much. (Ken Sande)
Reading & Reflection from the book, Shaping The Journey of Emerging Adults:
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Read “Seek God through Fasting” (p. 141). How could a Social Media fast help you see its effect on you? Work out with each other what kinds of Social Media and how long you each will commit to fasting between meetings.
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Read “Teach Specific Skills for Healthy Relating” (pp. 158-160). Though there are many reasons one may depend on Social Media, one reason might be a feeling of inadequacy in face-to-face relationships. Go over these skills and discuss which one might be helpful to grow in.
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Read “Provisional Connections” (pp. 35-36). Have you experienced relationships as being somewhat temporary and conditional? Do you relate to the struggle to follow up on Facebook connections? How would scaling back on your use of Social Media affect that (positively or negatively)?
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Read “Time Constraints and Technology” (pp. 193-194). Analyze how much of your time on Social Media has been productive or encouraging (to your walk with Christ or to the development of a healthy adult identity, for example) as opposed to being a time-waster. How can you keep some of your Social Media time from being a time-waster?
Explore Scripture
Meditate on one or more of the following passages. Always look them up in context. Take some time to really explore the verse in relation to this topic. Look for insights on how to relate to Social Media or what its place in your life should be. Make a note of what you discover to share later. See "Learn More About Ways to Study Scripture" below for help in getting the most out of the verse.
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Leviticus 19:16
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Psalm 119:37
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Proverbs 4:23
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Proverbs 18:1
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Matthew 6:19-21
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John 3:30
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Romans 12:1-2
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1 Corinthians 10:31
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Galatians 1:10
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Ephesians 5:16
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Colossians 3:23
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1 Timothy 6:20
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Hebrews 10:25
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1 John 2:15-18
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2 John 1:12