Christlife Posture: Loving Like Jesus

Topic: Loyalty in Commitments

Suggested Approach: Choose 1 thing from each of the three boxes

OR Choose 1 from Media or Reflection + 1 from Scripture 

Media Excursions (Watch/read/listen and be ready to discuss Q's)

Multimedia/Paintings

  • Erbarme dich (Bach) Read the information and translation of the words below the video.  Note these artist’s interpretations of Peter’s reaction to denying Christ. Now reflect on this disciple’s enthusiasm for following Christ. How do you respond to his inability to remain loyal to Christ when things got tough?  What do you think some of the reasons for his lapse might be? When is it hardest for you to be loyal in relationships you are committed to?   

Video Clip

  • We are the Church (Freedom Church) How might this act of loyalty reflect the kind of loyalty we are to have for one another in the body of Christ?

Song

  • You’ve Got a Friend (James Taylor) What are some of the situations in this song where the songwriter (Carole King) assures the hearer that she will be a loyal friend?  Can you remember a time when either you were there for someone or someone was there for you during a difficult time?  What was the outcome of that?

Articles 

  • Forum: A Faithful and True Friend (Shadrach) There are many quotes and many bible verses in this article.  Choose your favorite quote and verse to share.  What quality of a loyal friend is one you consistently exhibit? What is one you want to exhibit more?  

  • Devotional: Don't be reluctant to show mercy (Rick Warren) Do you understand the difference between trust and forgiveness? How can understanding that difference help you to remain loyal in relationships?

Reflection Options  

Journal  (reflect on one or more of these questions)

  • There are times when we should remain loyal in the commitments that we have made to others, and times it would be wiser to change the commitment or to bring closure.  How do you think you can tell the difference? Journal about a time you ended a commitment and it was a wise decision. Journal about a time you broke a commitment and later regretted it.

  • The bible says God is faithful and keeps his promises.  However, a promise kept may vary in timing or details from what we expect or hope for.  Journal about a time God was faithful to you but at first it didn’t feel like He was being faithful. How can you keep a promise to someone even if you shouldn’t do it in the exact way they hope for?

  • Where is it hardest to remain faithful over time (a job, a relationship, a commitment to worship, etc.)? What is difficult in that for you? How have you turned to Jesus for help in that situation?

Quote Interaction  (Agree, disagree or otherwise engage with the quote/quotes)

  • Be slow to fall into friendship; but when thou art in, continue firm and constant.  (Socrates)

  • The joy of intimacy is the reward of commitment.  (Joshua Harris)

  • Piglet sidled up to Pooh from behind. “Pooh?” he whispered. “Yes, Piglet?” “Nothing,” said Piglet, taking Pooh’s hand.  “I just wanted to be sure of you.”  (A.A. Milne in Winnie the Pooh)

  • Words are easy, like the wind; Faithful friends are hard to find.  (William Shakespeare)

  • Oh, the comfort, the inexpressible comfort of feeling safe with a person; having neither to weigh thoughts nor measure words, but to pour them all out, just as they are, chaff and grain together, knowing that a faithful hand will take and sift them, keep what is worth keeping, and then, with a breath of kindness, blow the rest away.  (George Eliot)

  • Beginning well is a momentary thing; finishing well is a lifelong thing.  (Ravi Zacharias)

Reading and Reflection from the book, Shaping The Journey of Emerging Adults

  • Read “Negotiating transitions: Is the grass is greener?” (pp. 191-193).  How does living life “transitionally” affect your ability to approach things with a sense of loyalty? Where is it hardest for you to gain a sense of loyalty: relationships, job or church?

  • Read the story about Mr. Genor (pp. 140).  Where is it most difficult for you to see the effect of your faithfulness in a job, friendship or commitment?  How does an inability to see the difference you are making affect your motivation to remain loyal?

  • Read "Reflect on the benefits of relational consistency" (p. 162). Make a list of benefits of relational consistency that you have experienced in your life.  How might that list help you "hang in there" in a current situation? 

Explore Scripture

Meditate on one or more of the following passages. Always look them up in context.  Take some time to really explore the verse in relation to this topic.  How do these verses model or encourage loyalty in commitments (to friends, jobs or others in the body of Christ)?  Make a note of what you discover to share later.  See "Learn More About Ways to Study Scripture" below for help in getting the most out of the verse.

  • Ruth 1:16-18

  • 1 Samuel 18:1-3

  • 2 Kings 2:1-7

  • Proverbs 17:9 and 17a

  • Proverbs 18:24

  • Proverbs 20:5,6

  • Proverbs 27:6, 10, 17

  • Ecclesiastes 4:9-12

  • John 13:34-35

  • John 15:12, 13

  • Romans 12:15-18

  • Galatians 6:1,2

  • Philippians 4:15-17

  • I Peter 4:8

  • Philemon